Learn self control and it will teach you

 

Life is considered as a teacher like no other .There is no limitation to what you can learn from life , but it all depends on the student, who lives to learn the life ,you can either learn something or learn nothing which might  leads to a lot of regret. One can learn subjects like patience, tolerance (self control).

Self control is in its entirety is a mixture of a lot of things or can lead to a lot of things like patience, calmness, have a cool head, learn to listen ex. It is only when one learns to first control once self, does he equip to learn to accept another person, opinion and a lot more.

They say that silence ,at times can be  an act of wisdom it better to be  silent in the middle of an argument. if you are not sure of the whole picture, and  knowing  only part of the taking ,speaking under  such circumstances can at times lengthens a argument or lead to a fight. If it is not your place to speak it is always better not too. Learning to Control once self -temper or once own mouth under such circumstances is quite learning in its self.

 

Learning to retrieve from speaking can be a difficult thing to do ,for some especially for the once who talk a lot. I  have learned to notice that one gets to hear more ,understand more, come to see other peoples point of view ,their thinking more clearly .if one retrieves from talking all the time  .

If you have ever seen a cycatrist  taking a session with a patent, in life or in a movie , you will notice that most of the time the Doctor  just sit there listens to the patent  while the patent goes on talking for hours .the Doctor takes this time to hear out the patent and tries to understand the situation as the patent sees it . before the doctor starts  giving an advice or prognosis

We have a tendency to advice or console a crying person or child. I would sudjust that we deal with the emotions before we start giving lesions on the situation .

Emotions are better dealt with a touch of the heart,  where an advise requires a little of the mind than the heart

If you first show sensitiveness  to others feelings, it eases their emotions or helps to do so. If this is done 85% of your work is done, the person then feels happy that you have valued his or her feelings, and is in position to listen to you in most cases.

Correcting children from there errors takes time. They say this  because a good deal of patience is required to listen .At times parents might find this to be very stupid , but mind you, Something that takes you 10 times explaining a  toddler can be made much easier or might only need 4 times if you show them that you are there to hear them. And in order  to do this The things you would require is  sensitiveness, the mind to hear out an another person than yourself ,a  lot of patience which comes out from a lot Self control Learned in the course  LIFE. So learn the magic as early as you can so you can learn more than you possibly can.