Anger

 

Every head has a tail, so does every man has both extreme extends of behaviour emotions . Anger for some can be considered to a extreme expressive emotions . If someone asked you to choose a person one  with a hot temper are the other with a calm personality  ,without a doubt you would chose the person with  the calm personality. Because we have structured ourselves with the opinion that a Angry  person is always agree or is a tough person to go with ,unless if the other person is very submissive in approach .

Some people are quick to anger for these people it does not take much to get them burning with anger .Some show anger as a sign of self defence they tend to be more repulsive is word. And some get agree when they are sad ,when they are not heard such people react her emotions in words.

 A person observing an angry person should try to take note of what are the situation or circumstances that make the person angry , is simple words one must find out what makes the bell tick.

For an example -:If a angry person after a hard day of work comes back home ,we tend to get away from them for the fear that the angry person might flash his anger over us, under such circumstances we can make sure we cool the room .ect make sure there is plenty of light and nice clean  air coming in the room were the angry person is sitting or standing ,do not use air freshens for this ,since the smell, for some can give a person a headache and a angry person could get more angry. Chose to offer a cold drink ,in the place of a cup of coffee or tea. The air in the room and the cold drink would help to eases the angry person for a little wile once he is cool you will notice him taking off his shoe or opening his upper colour button, releasing his tie  , these are  still not a good  sign to go to talk to the angry person ,but give him or her sufficient time to cool off like say 10 to 15 minutes and rather you going up to the angry person let the person start the conversation with you.

Never talk to the emotions but rather deal with it first and then talk to the person , this is applicable both in grownups as well as in children

Observing human behaviour can be very interesting , it requires the observer  to observe the subject , the surrounding , and the response by the subject  to its surroundings , likewise while in observing an angry person you must keep in mind the angry person , his surroundings ,you might be not able  to change his circumstances . circumstances and surroundings are two different things ,circumstances that refer to the situations of life , while surroundings can also be things like  air , table , chair, water, things in a room  ect (things that surround a person ) . And how does the change or reacts in mood, behaviour ,ect under his or her surroundings .

One cannot get  ride of anger entirely from a person ,we must not do so since anger is a part of human emotion .we can only control it  and relate to it as a normal person as we relate with a hole different world of things .

Anger is natural, and should be approached naturally.  





Learn self control and it will teach you

 

Life is considered as a teacher like no other .There is no limitation to what you can learn from life , but it all depends on the student, who lives to learn the life ,you can either learn something or learn nothing which might  leads to a lot of regret. One can learn subjects like patience, tolerance (self control).

Self control is in its entirety is a mixture of a lot of things or can lead to a lot of things like patience, calmness, have a cool head, learn to listen ex. It is only when one learns to first control once self, does he equip to learn to accept another person, opinion and a lot more.

They say that silence ,at times can be  an act of wisdom it better to be  silent in the middle of an argument. if you are not sure of the whole picture, and  knowing  only part of the taking ,speaking under  such circumstances can at times lengthens a argument or lead to a fight. If it is not your place to speak it is always better not too. Learning to Control once self -temper or once own mouth under such circumstances is quite learning in its self.

 

Learning to retrieve from speaking can be a difficult thing to do ,for some especially for the once who talk a lot. I  have learned to notice that one gets to hear more ,understand more, come to see other peoples point of view ,their thinking more clearly .if one retrieves from talking all the time  .

If you have ever seen a cycatrist  taking a session with a patent, in life or in a movie , you will notice that most of the time the Doctor  just sit there listens to the patent  while the patent goes on talking for hours .the Doctor takes this time to hear out the patent and tries to understand the situation as the patent sees it . before the doctor starts  giving an advice or prognosis

We have a tendency to advice or console a crying person or child. I would sudjust that we deal with the emotions before we start giving lesions on the situation .

Emotions are better dealt with a touch of the heart,  where an advise requires a little of the mind than the heart

If you first show sensitiveness  to others feelings, it eases their emotions or helps to do so. If this is done 85% of your work is done, the person then feels happy that you have valued his or her feelings, and is in position to listen to you in most cases.

Correcting children from there errors takes time. They say this  because a good deal of patience is required to listen .At times parents might find this to be very stupid , but mind you, Something that takes you 10 times explaining a  toddler can be made much easier or might only need 4 times if you show them that you are there to hear them. And in order  to do this The things you would require is  sensitiveness, the mind to hear out an another person than yourself ,a  lot of patience which comes out from a lot Self control Learned in the course  LIFE. So learn the magic as early as you can so you can learn more than you possibly can.